What do Angry Birds and coaching have in common?

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Today I heard that coaching is like playing Angry Birds. Yes, Angry Birds… I have just come back from a very intriguing coaching workshop. The coach was a former game developper, thus the comparison, I believe. How accurate though!

But hey, what is this coaching anyway? And why am I writing about it? I discovered coaching a couple of years ago but officially started using it as a tool some 10 months ago. I just didn’t realize this was such a powerful tool in helping people achieve their (I repeat: THEIR) goals.

Yes, I do coach people from time to time and I feel passionate about it. Whenever my coachee proceeds with the changes in their life (that they have feared for so long!) or gets their dream job, or even cuts off this toxic relationship with their partner, I feel like I’m giving a little bit of myself to this world. The feeling is indescribable. Seriously.

This week, as it is International Coaching Week, I’m attending a series of workshops and lectures dedicated to coaching. It gives me such a pleasure to discover more about this topic and to hear success stories of people who uncovered their own potential during their coaching sessions. I believe in people, I’ve always did. I used to repeat, while working as a project manager in an international corporation, that people are the best company’s asset. Each and every person has a particular talent. It just has to be uncovered sometimes. A good coach is the one who helps with this mystery.

Nowadays, more and more organizations realize the importance of coaching. They send their managers for a couple of sessions each time they see there is a problem (such as lack of motivation, need for self-development or conflict with other employees, etc.). It’s good to see this trend. It means senior management is willing to invest in their people. Or I’m just being too naive 😉

That’s how I got into coaching myself: I started coaching people (business coaching). At work. The change I saw in my coachee after 3 months was tremendous. What’s more important actually is that HE saw that change and was very proud of it. Did I mentor him? Nope, I was just asking questions. All right questions apparently 😉 That success motivated me to continue with coaching sessions. In the meantime, I also discovered the power of self-coaching but I’ll write about it another time.

So coming back to Angry Birds and coaching… Surprised to hear the comparison? I was as well. But when you look closer you will realize there are similarities between both indeed. I didn’t take notes during the workshop this time (shame on me, I know…) but, from what I remember, it goes something like this:

  • GOAL/OUTCOME – what do you want to achieve in the game?
  • BOARD of the game – where are you now? what is the situation? what is the reality?
  • CHOICES/RESOURCES – what can you do now? what do you have now that you can use to achieve your goal?
  • PLANNING – what will you do? what actions will you take? (try different techniques, what works etc.)
  • REVIEW – what went well / not so well? (lessons learned)

This model reminds me a bit of the OSCAR coaching model. OSCAR stands for: Outcome, Situation, Choices/Consequences, Actions and Review.

If you’re struggling with an issue, you might want to check out if a coaching session wouldn’t be of any help to you. Coaching is a very popular tool and there are numerous coaches all around the globe to help you out.

If you have any successful stories to share, whether you are a coach or a coachee, I’ll be happy to hear about them 🙂 Don’t hesitate to leave a comment.

PS. Picture taken from HERE.

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Are you SMARTy-pants?

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What is your goal?

I mean, seriously.

If you ever wonder whether you’re going in the right direction, how will you know it? Who will be in a position to tell you if you don’t know what your goal is?

Everything is relative.

“To be successful.” “To be rich.”  “To live a happy life.”

All these will mean different things to Mark, to Antonio, to Boris, to Rita, to me, to you.

Be specific. Provide details of your goal. What is it exactly what you want to achieve? Try this experiment: tell a friend / partner / sister about your goal. Then ask them to describe how they see it. You’ll be surprised by their perspective. Both versions do not necessarily match? Be more specific. And write it down.

Now, how will you know that your goal has been met? Must something happen first? Will you feel it somehow? Do you have to obtain a certificate, a grade, a feedback? Is getting 1000 clients by the end of 2013 a measure of success for you? How will you measure that you’re successful in achieving your goal? Define it well before you start working.

Have you wondered whether your goal is achievable by you? Getting those 1000 clients globally within 1 month by Danone or Coca-Cola surely is. Is it by you, a newly created small company? Think twice before you ruin your motivation…

Are you realistic in your endeavors? Loosing 20 kg in 1 month may be an insane idea. How about you rethink and replan your assumptions? You don’t have a slight idea about what is or what is not realistic or reasonable? Ask an expert. They will likely be able to tell you and advise.

Ok, now that you have defined your specific and attainable goal, it would be great to decide by when you expect it to accomplish. Is it a short-term or a long-term goal? Do you want to achieve it by tomorrow / by the end of the week / by July 15th / by the end of 2014? Again, be specific. Provide the time frame. Note it down.

Wonderful. You have just structured your awesome goal against the good old SMART criteria. Congratulations 🙂

It is now time to make a detailed plan of actions. Not much work if you have only 1 goal. A little more work if there are plenty of the goal you wish to achieve.

Why don’t you list out all the steps you need to take for that matter?

Remember, only YOU are responsible for your achieving your goals. Nonetheless, there are people that can help you out. If you’re planning on building up your muscles and loosing 10% of fat by the end of 2013, it may be a good thing to hire a personal trainer or at least ask a friend (gym addict) to coach you a little.

Only bear in mind that YOU are responsible for your goal though.

If achieving a goal requires too many steps to take, maybe you need to sit down and redefine it. Remember that if it is not realistic, you will quickly feel demotivated and will give up on it. Perhaps smaller milestones would be a good thing to try?

Reward yourself when achieving those milestones. Nothing motivates us better than celebrating our small successes while following the road to THE goal.

Tell your friends and family about your successes, They will encourage you to keep moving. Who knows, maybe you will motivate them to improve something in their lives, too? Influencing others is an amazing feeling that gives you power to do more and better.

Once the goal achieved (or not), analyze lessons learned.

Why did you attain it (or failed)? Was it it easy (or too difficult) to achieve? Did you have enough time to meet the deadline you had earlier established? What / who was of great help to you? Did you have it written down or hang on the wall?

A short analysis of what went well / not so well will help you get to know yourself better. It will also help you understand which tools work well for you.

Share your best practices with others.

Recently, I have met a great young guy, very successfull in various business areas. He decided to share his good practices and lessons learned with others by organizing a workshop. Such a great idea! I felt inspired!

“Be the change you want to see in the world.”

So… what is your goal?

I mean, seriously…

Feeling down? We’ve all been there, dude…

Recently I’ve been talking to various people about self-motivation when times are tough.

No, I’m not going to write about motivation this time.

I’m going to write about how we, awesome people, sometimes just feel down.

The people I talked to were entrepreneurs, entrepreneurs-to-be, managers, team leaders, unemployed, the ones on sick leave, so on and so forth… Creative, inspiring, open-minded people, in general. They all admitted to have blue devils occasionally. Well, it happens, right? We are not super human species after all. Life is not only about having fun, celebrating successes and constantly eating the cake. Sometimes we have to sweat, cry and bear down a little so that we can appreciate better moments.

Many of us are going through tough times, we have quit our jobs, we have been made redundant, we have divorced, we are planning setting up our own business, we are going to set up a family, we are going to pack our things and move to a different country, etc. There are moments we feel powerless, with no energy nor positive attitude. It may happen. It’s quite normal, I would say. There is nothing wrong with such a feeling from time to time. BUT please bear in mind, these are just thoughts, a projection of your mind. They will come, they will go. They should not define who we really are…

If you found yourself in a difficult situation, it only means there is a next challenge for you. From life. Try to perceive it as an opportunity, as a task to accomplish (maybe a painful one, damn, one of the most painful ones in your life!).

How can you go about it? What can you learn from that? Is there anyone who can help you with it? Do you have anyone to talk to about your fears?

It’s crucial we have someone to support us in our endevors. In business, it’s good to have a partner who will pull us out of our ”big black hole” when we feel that nothing works fine. It’s also important we always have someone who will cheer us up when times are tough, who will remind us how awesome we are and that everything’s ok with us, we are just going through difficult moments.

So… just never give up! Because you’re great and can do big stuff.

If you do not believe in yourself, who will? Start with yourself! Others will follow, trust me.

And… never loose sight of your goal!

Below one of the famous pic shared so many times on Facebook. I am putting it here not without any reason 😉

Cheer up, buddy! 🙂

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